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AU, Yat Kuen

September 1, 1927 – January 27, 2021

Funeral service entrusted by Can-Trust-Funeral Ltd.

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YANG, Jui-Ying

July 27, 1933 – January 20, 2021

Funeral service entrusted by Can-Trust-Funeral Ltd.

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CHAN, Wai Yee

July 20, 1937 – January 16, 2021

Funeral service entrusted by Can-Trust-Funeral Ltd.

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Do you feel guilt when you find peace and calm while grieving the loss of a loved one?

Do you feel guilt when you find peace and calm while grieving the loss of a loved one?

Grief is a very individual process. Its duration and depth is very personal. The Richmond-based, licensed and professional funeral directors at Can-Trust-Funeral, offer these supportive words to grieving families. Their message serves families long after their contact with the professional funeral directors’ roles in planning of funeral arrangements, ensuring all documents are correct to eliminate paper work stress, cremation arrangements, memorial planning or celebration of life events. 

While Can-Trust-Funeral directors can refer families who want to address the longer term emotional impact of the loss of a loved one, to colleagues dedicated to after care, they have heard some particular questions shared by Lower Mainland families who have been served by Can-Trust’s team of professionals: 

 Q.  Is it wrong for me to feel calm? 

It is natural to feel grief and to suffer with the loss of a family member. Usually that feeling is felt in stages that move you from suffering and then with acceptance towards a deeper, perhaps calmer feeling about death.  

We are often sensitive about what others around us might feel, or the way in which we are told we should show our grief.  It’s not actually that there is something wrong with you.  

Q. How long does grief linger in our day to day lives?  

Sadness may come and go. You will likely feel a sense of your loved ones being with you at any time.  

You may feel more peace if you are aware of these natural cycles.  You may find comfort over time in the memories and traditions you shared even as you miss the people who are gone. You may feel their presence at the holiday table or in the conversations you are having while spending time with others.  

It takes as long as it takes, to ‘get over’ a loss of any relationship, especially when that loss is permanent due to the death of a loved one.  

Know, it’s OK to talk about them to say, “I miss him so much.”  

Q. Will the pain ever go away? 

Pain never really goes away, but it lessens. Its energy moves into a different place.   

Over time, the pain shifts to other parts of the body, or your daily life. Eventually, your suffering lessens. This lightening makes some people feel guilty. 

Grief is a journey. As you heal the heaviness may lift and that pain will shift and won’t be so prominent.  

Understanding the process and having compassion for the person, especially yourself, applies to both groups of people in grief, say the Funeral Directors: 

• Primary griever 

• Support system 

There are other tools besides time that can help bring relief. (LINK TO ROUTINES POST) 

It’s OK to feel better at your own time and in your own way.  It’s not a betrayal if in the maintenance of health and wellbeing the memory of the loved one lives on. Some feel it is their lifelong journey to uphold the memory but this hanging on may block recovery. It may block the ability to move beyond the pain towards a new and healthy ongoing connection to the loved one.  

Can-Trust’s funeral directors offer families caring guidance on all options in the Lower Mainland community. We provide reliable, straightforward and affordable service, and with compassion, always.    

Before you engage with any funeral homes, please call Can-Trust-Funeral at 604-376-7975 or email to book a free professional consultation. You are never obligated.    

Our Can-Trust team of licensed funeral directors, provides funeral services in Burnaby, funeral services in Richmond, Vancouver and throughout the Lower Mainland.    

Phone: 604-376-7975    

E-mail: can-trust-funeral@outlook.com    

WeChat: Cantrustfuneral    

Learn more at the Can-Trust Funeral Ltd website 

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3 Ways you can heal from grief even as society engulfs you with celebratory seasonal messages from Vancouver’s Can-Trust-Funeral

3 Ways you can heal from grief even as society engulfs you with celebratory seasonal messages from Vancouver’s Can-Trust-Funeral

January continues to evoke mixed feelings for families dealing with traumatic loss of loved ones that may have been triggered at Christmas. The universal holiday of rebirth is a season filled with music and greetings asking us to be joyful, feel happy and share peace with our fellow humans. The funeral directors at Richmond based, Can-Trust-Funeral, know of the turmoil a family feels as they miss recently lost loved ones or have painful memories while messages at the New Year urge fresh starts.  

Can-Trust-Funeral’s death care professionals see that these recommendations have helped families in the Lower Mainland of BC, adjust after funerals, cremations, memorials and celebrations of life.  

1. Focus on healing

Christmas time is traumatic for many reasons and may even bring up PTSD. In January, it is customary to put up a new calendar, open a new date book and with it the opportunity to reset.  

Everyone’s healing journey is unique and takes as long as it takes. It may be helpful to talk about it, and in the process let others help you.  

2. Structure  in new habits, routines, traditions 

What gets people through a season or any day is as individual a thing as their dealing with grief. They may go for counselling. They may move through grief with regular exercise. 

  • These new habits can be added to a life sustaining routine whose new elements might focus on mental or physical health, or ways to engage with other people.  
  • Routine helps. It gives structure and supports the hopefully happy new additions in someone’s life. It’s not a betrayal if in the maintenance of health and wellbeing the memory of the loved one lives on.  
  • Some people honour the loved one who passed by setting up a fund or foundation as one of many ways to observe a tradition that links them to loved one who passed.  

These may become a new tradition in the family.     

3. Better anniversary planning   

  • Be well prepared, emotionally, especially if it is only the first year. Anticipate the next round of anniversary days or events. These could also be triggers like their wedding anniversary, the accident, the death, the diagnosis. 
  • We each remember in our own way. The calendar, our body remembers and now even if you have not programmed it into a calendar, Social media sends you reminders of everyday calendar events and memories.  
  • Consider helping others and comforting them, such as a parent when the other has passed. Such human connection helps everyone.  

Can-Trust’s funeral directors offer families caring guidance on all options in the Lower Mainland community. We provide reliable, straightforward and affordable service, and with compassion, always.    

Before you engage with any funeral homes, please call Can-Trust-Funeral at 604-376-7975 or email to book a free professional consultation. You are never obligated.    

Our Can-Trust team of licensed funeral directors, provides funeral services in Burnaby, funeral services in Richmond, Vancouver and throughout the Lower Mainland.    

Phone: 604-376-7975    

E-mail: can-trust-funeral@outlook.com    

WeChat: Cantrustfuneral    

Learn more at the Can-Trust Funeral Ltd website 

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YUEN, Sau Chi

August 7, 1921 – January 5, 2021

Funeral service entrusted by Can-Trust-Funeral Ltd.

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YIN, Marie Raymonde

March 24, 1925 – January 2, 2021

On behalf of the Yin family, we would like to thank everyone for their condolences, well wishes and prayers. We very much appreciate your thoughts and your support.  Due to pandemic, attendance will be limited to family members only but online tribute will be available on Friday Mass.  Please click on the link below.  Thank you.

Prayers: 18:00pm PST, Thursday, January 7, 2021 at Canadian Martyrs Catholic Church, 5771 Granville Avenue, Richmond, B.C., Canada.
Open Casket: For the link, please email michelyin25@gmail.com

Mass of Christian Burials:  10:30am PST, Friday, January 8, 2021 at Canadian Martyrs Catholic Church, 5771 Granville Avenue, Richmond, B.C., Canada.

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Burial Service:  12:15pm, Friday, January 8, 2021 at Mountain View Cemetery, 5455 Fraser Street, Vancouver.

In lieu of flowers, please make donation to Salvation Army or Food Banks BC.

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CHEN, Wen-Chen

March 10, 1966 – January 2, 2021

Funeral service entrusted by Can-Trust-Funeral Ltd.

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WU, Mu Chin

March 29, 1956 – January 1, 2021

Funeral service entrusted by Can-Trust-Funeral Ltd.

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LI, Xiang Dong

April 15, 1970 – December 30, 2020

Funeral service entrusted by Can-Trust-Funeral Ltd.